After having a really amazing heart to heart with a close friend, we both realised that people around us whether intentionally or unintentionally have killed or scarred a lot of thing within us from a young age. some of these comments or actions we have carried them into adulthood. These things stemming from our past are as easy and hurtful as, ‘ You have gained some weight, you are still young why don’t you loose it’. Really people? Is this the Christian way? Why would you say these things to children? Many people hide behind saying such as ‘ tough love is the best love’. I’m sorry but in what scripture does it say this exactly?Ephesians 4:29 ESV Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
We need to be careful about what we are exposing the younger generation too. Hatred, being mean, racism and bullying are all learned behaviours. These words are not kind, the motive behind them is not to build but to destroy so whose team are you playing on? I spoke about it briefly in one of my posts about being fearfully and wonderfully made.
Romans 8:1-39 ESV
There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death. For God has done what the law, weakened by the flesh, could not do. By sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh and for sin, he condemned sin in the flesh, in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not according to the flesh but according to the Spirit. For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. …
This scripture is the scripture that set me free about a lot of insecurities and doubts I had about myself. I struggled to see myself as being someone who can love and be loved. Yes I am small, yes I am petite and yes above all I talk a lot….annnddd? What you are telling me are facts, but for some reason people make you feel bad about who you are and what you look like as if you created yourself. My maker made me without mistake, he planned me and loves me as I am,
Psalm 139:13-14 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.
Children are the purest and most innocent form we can be in our humans lives. I don’t understand why you would want to take away their joy just because you’ve had it tough. Adult or not, hurting or not, parent or not, we all have a role to play to teach the young ones how to love themselves the way God created them so they are able to love others and accept them as. With words we destroy more than we build, even in the church, its true we have brought many to the church through the message but many are leaving just as quickly because of the things we say and do. We need to reflect, build each other up and LOVE the way Christ loves us. The building that you go to is not the church, but the people inside it are what make the church. By being mean spirited we are driving people away to find and seek love in the wrong places, this also includes the youth. Our youth are driven away from churches because there are no role models, people to help or relate to issues they feel they are dealing with alone, my message is BE THAT PERSON to help and lend a hand.
Speak life. Be encouraging. life and death are in the power of the tongue